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Originally Posted by Tsuwabuki
This reminds me of one of my favorite exchanges between Andie (Molly Ringwald) and her principal in Pretty in Pink:
"Andie, if you send out signals you don't want to belong, people are going to make sure you don't."
"That's a nice theory."
That pretty much sums up my view what you say above. I don't believe blaming the victim of bullying is the correct tactic. If you treat others the way you want to be treated, then you should be treated the way you want to be treated. This is regardless of your social choices or nonverbal cues. It's unfortunate the bullies do not understand that just because an opening is available doesn't mean they should take it, which is what it seems like you are suggesting. No person should have to fear their own body language is putting them in danger.
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No, you're right, and I agree. A person shouldn't have to blame themselves for becoming a victim or having the wrong type of body language. Unfortunately, they'll be targeted somewhat based on their body language, regardless.
I don't blame the victim for becoming a victim; however, I am inclined to criticize the victim according to their actions while being a victim. I'm assuming you believe in standing up for yourself? That's basically the virtue I've been implying--obviously, with little-to-no success. lol