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Originally Posted by Brass
As you guys all know I am very interested in going to Japan because I love their culture. I'm also interested in dating women (short term, sadly) while I am there.
I have pretty much given up on the shallowness of women in America where you have to look like Brad Pitt for them to give you the time of day. I am wondering if Japan is any better? I am not fat or anything, I am in good shape, but I'm not model looking. I also know how to talk to women.
Someday I want to eventually move there as I'm tired of living in a superficial country.
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In my experience on JF, often no one is as deplorably shallow as taxi-cab American men and their never-ending pant of "Japanese womans better than American womans!".
I don't understand how people can in the same breath put down one set based because of the way they apparently use appearance bias, whilst elevating another set on the basis of a race bias. Some Japanese women have all the serene beauty of icebergs; only with nothing below the surface. Some American women are honestly unconcerned about looks. Don't generalize because all that does is closes doors to yourself or leads you into mistaken assumptions.
Is Japan, as a modern media culture less obsessed with appearance than any other country? No. They are just the same. Maybe in slightly different ways. But no less concerned. In fact in some ways they are worse. Pull the blinkers off. Japan's no heaven and the people there can be just as superficial and just as judgmental as anyone else. Baldness, fatness, ugliness are all just as lampooned in Japan as they are in the west.
Will you, an average looking male, get a girlfriend in Japan? Maybe, but even if she's not after you for your looks, she might still only be shallowly attracted to you as foreign meat to show off to her friends. And even being foreign is not enough nowadays to make up for major short-comings like a personality flaw. 'Cept the psychos and skanks. Seen a few of those doing the rounds.