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06-17-2010, 01:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Nyororin View Post
Bias? Being as the original question was about how it`s done in Japan, I would think that they might want to hear from people who have dated (and seriously, not just looking for someone to hop into bed with) in Japan.
True, my comments were based on dating Japanese and Korean men who were either traveling or who had immigrated to the U.S., not dating them in their native country. But since few if any of their customs were modified by being here, the observation stands. And given that the majority of posters on this forum have no frame of reference that specific, my posting seems more than warranted.

Earlier someone mentioned that it is customary for hosts to bear the cost of entertaining foreign visitors. While that custom is consistent in both countries, once the formality of those first social events were over, if the relationship became more personal, there was a clear shift of the expenses to my date which was invariably insisted upon strenuously by them.

And the views of my female friends from both countries is closer to being a bit shocked that anyone would expect otherwise.

The second and third generation Asians here are a bit more open to women sometimes paying, and I regarded that as being more Americanized until this discussion which hints at it being more generational.


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