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Originally Posted by MMM
Again, you are showing a lot of negativity towards motherhood that I simply have never heard before. Maybe things are different in the UK, but in my experience women are proud of being stay-at-home moms, and for the most part I think society appreciates them.
You talk about "the problems" of being a mother, but I don't know that mothers here see "problems". I also don't know that mothers consider raising their children as a "sacrifice".
I know mothers that run in marathons, own their own businesses, and joke about their hangovers on Facebook.
Never have I thought "she shouldn't be doing that, because she is a mom".
I am sad to hear women your age (not sure what age that is) see motherhood as a minefield.
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The thing is MMM is that for many women I know they have spent years educating themselves, many are lawyers or scientists with PHD's. These women just like most men have great career aspirations and to throw all that education and training away to spend a large portion of their lives raising children would be a great sacrifice and frankly a great loss to society.
These are very intelligent and ambitious women who have not grown up ever thinking they would be spending any of their life sitting around a house cleaning up after their husband.
Most of them firmly establish themselves in their careers before even thinking about having children or getting married so rarely have children before they are 30. And they generally get back into work as quickly as possible after having their children. Some may consider this selfish but isn't it just as selfish for men to expect a women to be the ones to sacrifice their careers and ambitions after a child is born? I guess it depends how much you believe in traditional roles for men and women.