Hello ^^ I just registered and was browsing through this thread...
RE: plus size ...I'm a perfectly normal shape but wear clothes on the "upper end of normal size", read as a size US14, and I don't find it impossible to find VK style clothing. One thing you need to consider is, if you're Western, you're likely to be of a much bigger build than Asians even if you're not necessarily overweight. Trousers labelled as XXL are made 32" around, which is a US12. So what people who aren't tiny have to do is customize their own trousers ...I mean, sewing patches and zips and chains on really isn't that hard.
RE: dressing like Visual Kei people do when they dress casually ...jeans and a multicoloured t-shirt? XD