Like I said, I, personally, don't have a problem finding clothes. That's not to say it's easy - just try shopping for a pair of pants with me! XD - but I'm not of the "Damn the Evil Fashion Industry" persuasion. I realize it's made for thin people, and though it pisses me off occasionally, I'm grateful when things do fit me because it means I can be a part of the stylish crowd as opposed to wearing tents.
I'm also quite confident when I know I look good. But I think it's more of an issue than when I just dress "goth" or "punk", read as: a style I and the people around me know better, because Visual Kei and Lolita are relatively unknown here in the West, and are only understood as a subgenre of Goth, so people are less likely to understand. I'm fine with causing a scene, but if you have the "Wtf is that?!" reaction to deal with in ADDITION to "OMG GOTH LOL!!" you do have to be
supersure of your look to stay confident. I can only deal with so much negativity from people at one time.
Another issue is, of course, finding out what's accepted
within the scene. Hence my query. I can cope if I walk into a club where there's a Visual Kei event and some people glare, cause you always get people checking out each other's outfits. But I like knowing the general consensus first to be able to guess what the reaction will be, so I can be prepared.