[steven]

This is weird advice, but I'd say stick with it. Be careful and... you know the rest (I hope).

If you're really serious though, I'd say school is sometimes a good place to meet people. There are a lot of the same people at schools that go to those parties, though. You have to find someone who maybe isn't into the partying stuff that you're used to as much as that will just get you right back in. If you find some groups or something like that, that might be a good place. Like if you go to school you might try joining a club or something like that-- that's where you could find someone with some common interests. Sometimes they have social events and you might meet some people at other schools nearby who also share common interests.

What you have to be careful of, is that I think a lot of girls see guys that try to swoon them as guys that will do that to just any girl. So they'll just pass you off if you try the same stuff that you would to get a one nighter.

If you're not going to school, it's probably time to start (although I guess with the economy schools are cutting back on how many people can enroll). If you go to school hopefully you can find someone who is above the party scene, which it sounds like you're trying to get over.

I guess California girls aren't like what the Beach Boys used to sing about haha. There's a lotta girls you can hook up with for a night like you're talking about, then there's gold diggers, then there's girls that are out for some kind of revenge on ex boyfriends (which might fall into the one night stand category). To be honest, I never had much luck with long term relationships in California. I think that getting away from parties is a good start though.

PS: You seem too young to wanna get into a long term relationship though... why not enjoy it while you can? Maybe take a break for a bit. This is coming from someone who's always liked older women, but I think girls that young are too immature to get serious with anyways. Just don't F it up and get someone pregnant, cause then you'll be stuck with some girl you met at a party for a one night stand... for the rest of your life (having to raise a kid... which honestly you might not know for sure if it's even your's or not).

But yea, good luck...