[steven]

I don't know about grocery stores haha. Maybe in the movies. I'm with you, I don't know too many girls who are into the same hobbies as you and I don't know if I'd be down with them even if they did exist (no offense to any women who are into that stuff). If you're going to school you can always meet people who are in your same major/minor.

I know what you're going through though. I started giving up on that stuff around last year and now I'm married... so you never know. Marriage certainly isn't for everyone though. To be honest, I was always scared about getting married in California (I live in Japan so...) because all I ever hear about are divorces and getting screwed out of your money for the rest of your life type of stories. Another thing, my wife occasionally brings up how thankful she is that we didn't meet in some bar or at some party or something like that.

I think that party lifestyle can catch up with you though... so you only have that short window in your life to really do it right before you become one of those 40 year old men trying to put the moves on every 19 year old chick he sees. The more you participate in that kind of lifestyle the more you become it, whether that was your intentions or not from the get go or not. I've seen a lot of friends (and a lot of older people too) who went down that road a little to far and ended up nowhere. You know what they say, you either pay today or you pay tomorrow. I'd say it isn't that black and white though in this situation... if you don't have some fun for a while you'll have your regrets later on. The same thing goes if you have too much fun now... you might end up wishing you settled down. To each his own though. I'm not much older than you and I threw in the towell. I feel like I'm border line- if not too young to get married though (23).

You might try doing a long term relationship, but I think they are pretty taxing if you're not serious about it (especially since one of you will eventually become serious regardless of the other). But I think it would definitely be a good experience as you might learn what really pisses you off about the opposite sex as to avoid certain women with certain traits in the future and stuff like that.

By the way, I'm digging your word "shogunistic". I'm not sure if you meant it or not but I got a laugh out of it. I know what you wanna say though.