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Originally Posted by TalnSG
The clarifications of this obligation caught my attention. I had not thought about whether the emphasis was to pour drinks for the other person, or for a person just not to pour a drink for themselves. I am familiar with the thought that if a woman pours her own drinks she will not marry, but I thought the emphasis was more one of social heirarchy. One would pour drinks for the oldest or most honored people present out of respect, and then for any younger women present.
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Hi, TalnSG.
Do you work in Japan? Or, work with Japanese people?
If you drink with people from your work, social hierarchy must be very important, and you may see people pour for the older or the more honored people.
However, when you go to drink with your friends causally, they don’t mind who is the older or the more honored.
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Or perhaps there's confusion going on in my mind, which would also make me wonder if the tradition of women not pouring their own drinks started because men controlled how and when everything was done - at least in public.
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A woman can pour for other women.
In addition, if you (a woman) want to be poured, you can pour for someone, and then the person must notice your empty glass and pour for you.
Do you think it’s circuitous?
