I would say that all the things you listed are also atrocities and I agree with your message that overall... war sucks
But I think in order to do so we cant take a relativistic approach to justifying past events.
All the things you talk about... Germany bombing Britain, Japan attacking Asian countries and torturing POWs... they are all atrocities too that I condemn.
I think if we are going to be honest... the Allies too committed atrocities and to try and justify means maybe we havent learnt that much.
Anyway.... Im sorry you had to live through such horror and Im happy that you seem to be on a journey of discovery concerning Japan and Germany.
And for what its worth... I think women are just as capable of rational thinking as men! So yes I DO expect rational thinking from you