Quote:
Originally Posted by evanny
even in western world romantic marriage is new. less than 100 years ago people were still fixed together by their parents purely based on financial and social reasons - and all that time society worked just fine with that module.
so in my view it is far too early to call it a "tradition" for western people.
|
There is so much more to that evanny. Statistics and all that.
People who lived and worked on farms--- living in small villages-- seldom leaving that village-- inter marrying because of that.
we are not allowed to discuss religion-- but in those days it was behave or you will burn in hell. a way of controlling we human beings with all our sinful ways. Much was based on the Bible and Heaven help you if you disobeyed the ten commandments!!
It was a dreadful sin to have a child out of wedlock and the awful consequences to that poor child-- or back street dangerous abortions.
There has been so much dreadful Bigotry in this country-- Ireland especially.
It used to be much harder to divorce. Nowadays couples can live together without it seeming a crime-- babies can be born to single women or unmarried couples--no one blinks an eye! Yet it was not so long ago-- it was criminal.
If Japan does not have RELIGION on its back condemning what they do--I DO Not know enough about Buddhism and Shintoism-- then they make their own decisions. I suppose CUSTOM is something that applies.
For those who are afraid that their sin on earth will prevent them eternal life
or perpetual Hell-- because it Was that fear that controlled so many--
In the end I believe that marriage should be taken very seriously and both partners take their part--
Here in UK no doubt many men went off to their pub or club to mix with their pals and get away from THE WIFE.
I think that in many cases- adultery can be major cause of divorce-- but also the stress of modern life also very much an issue.
It is not easy for young couples.