I'm here to find my soulmate...
No, just kidding.
I think a lot of people can relate to your post, GoNative. There are people who rely on the net for dating and/or for the sole intention of making friends - which I never really understood - but even then, I would assume that ratio wasn't as major as would be implied.
I understand you're older than me ... maybe by 15-20 years, from my guess (lol)... but the approach that you've described sounds considerably similar to mine, with a few differences or notable details: (1) My social life is crap, at the moment... not entirely by choice, but primarily because I've been so busy. (2) Although, I may not necessarily be here to make friends, I wouldn't close myself to the possibility of it; and it'd never hurt to be friendly. (3) I easily consider people my friends. I would call a number of people here my friends. However, I categorize my "friends" according to trust. Which, naturally puts any friends I happen to make online, at the bottom of that list ~ nevertheless, being friends.
I enjoy... having something to do, and I usually come here when I'm bored. One thing I've learned is that people are hard to predict. I'm fascinated by the study of psychology, and as I continue to explore further into that field, the fact yet still remains that people can be unpredictable, despite all the incredible information that has been gathered on them. This subsequently makes life, for us, unpredictable. In which regard, I wouldn't confidently look down on the potential to meet genuinely great people on the internet whom you could develope some kind of bond with.
The odds are unlikely, and there many dangers out there... but it's not impossible, of course.
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Originally Posted by Suki
Certainly a forum is not the best of places to make bonds of friendship. I guess the right word would be "contacts", rather than friends. It's like Facebook. On my Facebook page it says I have over 250 friends, but the truth is they're hardly friends of mine. Most of them are classmates I see everyday and have crossed a few words but never really gotten to know each other. I guess that is how that section works. They exchange addies and chat on msn but that's the furthest it will go. But hey, whatever works for them.
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I know what you mean. Though, I only have about 35 friends on FB, most of which are relatives of mine. lol
I noticed my brother had around 350 friends on his account. When he logged on, it said 48 of his friends were online on the chat... after briefly checking his account, he got ready to log off. I asked him why he didn't chat with any of them, and he replied,
"Well, they're not all people that I really talk to; I just know them at school."