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Originally Posted by Nyororin
I kind of wonder why there is such a strong tendency for separate beds to be thought of as something bad in the west... And why it seems to be connected to a lack of love in the relationship. Even Steven makes and assumption along these lines with the "matched" bit. Applying the norms of western culture to it doesn`t really make much sense, as it`s pretty normal to sleep in separate beds so there is no stigma. There is no extra meaning to it - it doesn`t hint at a couple that isn`t happy, or that don`t love each other.
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I was always really confused by this growing up. My Dad had his adenoids removed as a young man and they messed up the operation and now he snores horrendously. Because it's an actual physical abnormality, none of the usual strips and sprays work at all to help it. So my mum has pretty much -always- slept in a separate room. As a small child, I always assumed this was how everyone's family worked, so it confused me when people would get awkward and apologetic whenever I innocently mentioned that "that's mummy's room, and that one's daddy's room." I learnt to gloss over it as I got older, or hastily explain about the snoring, but it's always infuriated me that people make snap judgements over the health of my parent's marriage, because they don't sleep in the same room. Or start getting creepy sympathetic or extra nice to me because -clearly- my parents were cold and on the verge of snapping and splitting up and oh won't someone think of the children~ *eye-roll*
Ironically, the worst culprit for that was someone shared a bed their entire marriage, and then got into a really bitter divorce.
TL;DR: It doesn't mean squat in my book.