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Originally Posted by Columbine
I was always really confused by this growing up. My Dad had his adenoids removed as a young man and they messed up the operation and now he snores horrendously. Because it's an actual physical abnormality, none of the usual strips and sprays work at all to help it. So my mum has pretty much -always- slept in a separate room. As a small child, I always assumed this was how everyone's family worked, so it confused me when people would get awkward and apologetic whenever I innocently mentioned that "that's mummy's room, and that one's daddy's room." I learnt to gloss over it as I got older, or hastily explain about the snoring, but it's always infuriated me that people make snap judgements over the health of my parent's marriage, because they don't sleep in the same room. Or start getting creepy sympathetic or extra nice to me because -clearly- my parents were cold and on the verge of snapping and splitting up and oh won't someone think of the children~ *eye-roll*
Ironically, the worst culprit for that was someone shared a bed their entire marriage, and then got into a really bitter divorce.
TL;DR: It doesn't mean squat in my book.
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That's interesting. To be honest I'd probably have responded sympathetically as I always assumed married couples slept together. I guess there's quite a bit of ignorance on my part. Judging by the people who have contributed to this thread as of late, one could imagine that most people don't sleep together! I don't think that's the case though. I realize now that physical problems tend to lead to sleeping seperately. Despite my dad's loud snoring, my mom managed to sleep in the same bed with him though (with the assistance of ear plugs of course).
I wonder, however, if these kinds of physical issues play a part in the Japanese situation represented by the survey I posted.
And GiannaR, you're welcome. I think you might find some of this info interesting:
Housework styles of Japanese women | 世論 What Japan Thinks
I think it should be noted that this survey is composed of half housewives and half full time jobs. Either way, the content of the survey is quite interesting and might help to answer some of the stuff you were wondering about.
Here's another interesting one:
Japanese wives in the kitchen: part 1 of 2 | 世論 What Japan Thinks
Japanese wives in the kitchen: part 2 of 2 | 世論 What Japan Thinks
This one was particularly interesting to me:
Fathers, food and family life: part 2 of 3 | 世論 What Japan Thinks
Take note of the featured pie-chart. 22% (more than one in five) only spend one night a week sitting down with their family for a meal. Keep in mind these are 30-49 year olds.
Q6 also seems to shed some light on some of the questions you've asked.