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Originally Posted by missprincess
i deal with rejection seriously badly too, and i always end up questioning myself - however i dont think it should be like that - i think a big problem i have is that alot of my self confidence is based soley on my outward appearance etc etc so when i get knocked like most women do i think to myself am i not pretty enough is my personality not nice enough, and ofcourse thats the worse way to think about it, its so unhealthy its stupid
im so sorry to hear about ur experiences dogsbody, my friend, well hes more like a brother, has gone through the care system and i must say i couldnt imagine how it feels not to have a family that supports you, thats another level of strong! (pats back) i must must comend you on that, it takes alot of guts to face the world alone ALOT OF GUTS!
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thanks Princess-- guess its the luck of the draw.
You need to have enough self esteem not to worry what anyone else thinks about you. I had such low self esteem and a huge inferiority complex for many years-- but old age has taught me a lot LOL.
Stop worrying too much about your appearance. If you demonstrate self confidence and also take an interest in others-- almost forgetting YOURSELF in the process-- you will be fine. I realise that Peer Pressure can make one feel inadequate-- but its the person you are Inside that matters. self confident but not arrogant.
Having a genuine interest in other people is a good way to have friends.
My gr daughters go clubbing regularly-- they all tend to dress in a similar way--but they also have confidence.
When I was young I was way too self conscious.
Just be strong and also prepared to learn.