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Originally Posted by missprincess
ok, generally from experience ino that u shud never assume someone likes u just becoz they act different towards you, there could be a number of reasons for that and not until u hear it from the person themselves should you ever think, yeah they really fancy me. i remember a guy in college who i had the same feeling about and it turned out he had a GF for 6 years at the time, so you need to hear it from them before u come to that conclusion,
- second if a girl says she doesnt like u or has a BF or likes someone else its usually our way of saying we dont want to take it any further  sorry
if they were making excuses then more then likely they dont want to take it further
- thridly, i wouldnt ask girls out one after the other becoz the girl world is a very small one and if something happens to one girl (ie she gets asked out by a guy) the rest of them will know within a day or two - news like that spreads like wild fire - and if a girl realises that u have asked out another girl just a few weeks b4 even she will most defo say no, just coz every girl wants to feel like the guy whose asking her out wants her and her alone and not just a GF in general - ie. you keep asking till one says yes and not coz ur mad about them
-if i found out some guy had been asking a few of my friends out b4 me or even other girls that i didnt know and he then came to me i would turn him down for sure even if i was mad about him
-lastly i wouldnt ask the final girl out myself, get a close friend of yours to ask her how she feels about you and if she could ever take it further in general conversation, that saves u any trouble and its just easier,
sorry if the answer was a bit harsh but that just my take on the situation but if the close friends dont become GF's dont fret its usually better to go with an outsider sometimes coz they wont come into the relationship with any pre judgements, hope it helps! |
Ahaha its fine if you were a bit harsh cause reality itself is harsh sometime gotta handle whatever.Anyhow the answer you gave me some of the things you said were really useful I'll be sure to remember that but the part about a few weeks then asking another girl, before I stated above for each kinda... 4-5 months apart did i ask them out or such since one,im not desperate,and two, well I know it spreads like a wild fire and i also take the friendship into consideration aswell as their feelings and to be sure if it cant go any further then a friend thats when i finally realize wow it surely wont at all and sadly giveup and yea I guess i shouldnt assume but the thing is the few of them i had a partner in crime or a good friend thats really close to them to find some stuff out for me aswell and thats how i found out they liked me.Though its true if one of them find out a guy(me) had been asking a few of their friends out b4 them that they didnt know and he(me) then came to them of course they would turn me down but like i just said in this post I have a partner in crime/friend to know and such about that.Since all that pulls together thats actually why im asking cause even when they know me,I know they like me,I have a friend to help me find out stuff from them and such it stills ends up in the scenario : No or Rejected.So the last part which gave me advice about having a friend find out those stuff for me wouldnt exactly work cause i actually did it and found out stuff such as they liked me or what not but still get denied.Anyhow the idea of having a friend,and most of the things you told me I kinda already know from experiences. So yea...
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