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Originally Posted by RealJames
That's right, and I've heard that kind of thing often too. Though I wonder if it would be so much to cause a family member from having opposing a wedding with a foreigner. Maybe, if it's not too personal, Nyororin can expand a bit on what the grounds were for the complaints towards her husband when he was her fiance. That might shed more light on what it is that Japanese people oppose to in an international (with a westerner) marriage.
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It might not be what you think. It can be a lot of things. "A foreigner is eventually going to want to move home." "Life is better in America, so they are going to uproot and take the grandchildren with them." "My grandchildren won't be able to speak Japanese." "Foreigners run home when the going gets rough." "Our grandchildren are going to get hazed in school." "How am I going to communicate with his parents?" "My friends will feel sorry for me for having foreign in-laws." "Am I going to have to fly to a foreign country for the wedding?"
It isn't always negatives, but just questions marks that are concretes in a Japanese-Japanese relationship.