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Originally Posted by MMM
It might not be what you think. It can be a lot of things. "A foreigner is eventually going to want to move home." "Life is better in America, so they are going to uproot and take the grandchildren with them." "My grandchildren won't be able to speak Japanese." "Foreigners run home when the going gets rough." "Our grandchildren are going to get hazed in school." "How am I going to communicate with his parents?" "My friends will feel sorry for me for having foreign in-laws." "Am I going to have to fly to a foreign country for the wedding?"
It isn't always negatives, but just questions marks that are concretes in a Japanese-Japanese relationship.
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You bring up some things I hadn't considered before, it's true there are a lot of unknowns. Would asking these questions constitute opposing the idea? I imagine that someone would have to assume negative answers to their own questions, and enough of them, to actually raise it as a problem towards their friend or family member.
I imagine a lot of those questions really should be answered in person with the parents and family, some of them are very valid questions which would really be a good reason to oppose the marriage depending on how they are answered...