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Originally Posted by dogsbody70
well ROBIn if a grand parent has the time and energy to care for the child or children thats fine, but nowadays manyparents takei t for granted that their child's gr parent will look after the child full time.
I Personally feel thats okay but not full time. children are hard work when you get older.
I realise very well that often there is no choice for couples.
Is seems to be the norm to send a young baby to child care. My feeling about that is: that there is no point in having a child if always someone else brings the child/ren up.
I have seen some of these programmes that follow families who work and the stress it gives having to take the child to nursery at unearthly hours. It is not an easy life for the parents-- and do they ever really know their child.?
Yes I am old fashioned-- its my age I guess and growing up without family or love at all.
I was determined that when I had children that I would be there for them-- they still took part in local clubs etc but I felt responsible for the way they behaved.
Many children today are in CARE. Unloved and nobody really wants them. Thats horrid.
I really want children born to have their own family and to have security and love.
for me bringing a child into the world is a great responsibility.
Of course I know that its often Hobson choice. No alternative to child care.
I am not stupid-- I know the practicalitities.
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really this started because of someone saying that she expected the man to look after the child-- so that she could carry on her own career.
anyway to each his/her own.
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I understand your point, really I do. I agree that it's not fair to give the responsibility of raising a child to another person all the time, whether that person be in a daycare, or a nanny, or a grandparent. That said I think it can be beneficial part-time (and by that I also include during the day/night when a parent works, providing the parent is there for the other 12 hours to watch the child themselves).
My mother was a stay-at-home mom, and yet I still went to nurseries and daycares because it was beneficial to development, and also parents
need time to themselves. I do personally object to those obssessive parents whose entire world is 'Little Johnny', and have nothing else to talk about aside from his toilet and eating habits, which is why I think parents need a social life
away from the child. . . but even those parents who
aren't obssessive need space. Parents need time to relax, to chill out, and to get away from the stress, because parenting is very hard work, and they need time with other adults to keep up-to-date with events and socialise and keep their minds sharp, something hard to do if your entire day is spent watching Sesame Street and not talking with other adults about adult things.
Your last point. . . I think you're referring to Suki, yes? If I'm right what she said was something like 'if I'm busy with my career one day I'd like my husband to watch the kids, and if he's busy one day with his career then I'd do the same for him'. I don't think there's anything wrong with that. If both parents are parenting equally and not demanding anything from one another, then there's nothing wrong with that. It's not as though they're abandonning their responsibilities, right?
