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Originally Posted by MissMisa
I agree completely with Suki on this one.
To be at home with your child all the time is a detriment to your child's health rather than a help. They become dependant on that one parent and can't function without them.
It's true that the child needs different role models in their lives, but the gender of these are irrelevent. In my opinion, these roles are interchangable.
If both parents are working, it is a positive step for your childs development. It means they don't become dependant on one or both parents, and they learn social skills and how to mix with other people. As they get older, they learn you have to make sacrifices and they develop a stronger work ethic.
The best way to learn is by going out there, making mistakes and doing things for yourself. Just because both parents may be working doesn't mean they are never there for their child, the typical 9-5 job means they actually spend the majority of the day with their child anyway.
Maybe it's useful in the very early days for parents to be at home to provide basic needs for a new born child, but that's about as far as it goes for me.
I don't think one parent needs to go out and work, and one parent needs to stay at home. The parents will be at home some of the time and at work some of the time. Surely it's better to have a balance rather than a one sided state of affairs?
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I missed this from Miss Misa, but wanted to respond.
Why would you think raising a child would be a determent to a child's ability to grow up? Raising a child is the normal way of doing things, and how it has been done since we started walking on dry land.
Children ARE dependent on their parents until they are old enough to function on their own. A parent TEACHES independence and all the other skills that are needed to function in society.
I agree that the roles of a mother and father can be interchanged, but I do not agree that the roles of a mother and father should be exactly the same. That's a little like saying little boys should be exactly the same as little girls.
The reality is that boys and girls see the roles of mother and father differently. The way a boy listens to his father can be very different than the way he listens to his mother, and vice versa. This modern day meme that moms and dads should play the exact same roles is a fallacy, and makes it easier to accept single parenthood as just as good as a two-parent home. If both mom and dad are doing the EXACT same things, then what do we need to people for?
How often I have heard single moms say "I am my son's mom AND dad"? Maybe to you, but not to your son.
I am not saying a single mom cannot do a good job, but I am saying she could do a BETTER job with the father in the picture. Of course there are many examples where this might be true (abusive father, for example) but pound for pound a child does better with a man and a woman raising him.
I cannot imagine a reality where it is BETTER for a child if BOTH parents are out of the picture most of the waking day. I am curious where you get this impression. How is that "positive for a child's development"? The child is going to develop regardless, should that development be fostered by a loving parent, or a stranger? Who do you want your child to learn values from?