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Originally Posted by MMM
I agree that the roles of a mother and father can be interchanged, but I do not agree that the roles of a mother and father should be exactly the same. That's a little like saying little boys should be exactly the same as little girls.
The reality is that boys and girls see the roles of mother and father differently. The way a boy listens to his father can be very different than the way he listens to his mother, and vice versa. This modern day meme that moms and dads should play the exact same roles is a fallacy, and makes it easier to accept single parenthood as just as good as a two-parent home. If both mom and dad are doing the EXACT same things, then what do we need to people for?
How often I have heard single moms say "I am my son's mom AND dad"? Maybe to you, but not to your son.
I am not saying a single mom cannot do a good job, but I am saying she could do a BETTER job with the father in the picture. Of course there are many examples where this might be true (abusive father, for example) but pound for pound a child does better with a man and a woman raising him.
I cannot imagine a reality where it is BETTER for a child if BOTH parents are out of the picture most of the waking day. I am curious where you get this impression. How is that "positive for a child's development"? The child is going to develop regardless, should that development be fostered by a loving parent, or a stranger? Who do you want your child to learn values from?
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I don't understand why you're against parents leaving their child with another perosn whilst they work. If we assume that the parents are leaving their child with a loving nurturing adult, one who will attend the childs needs and not neglect or abuse them, then the parents return later on in the day/night to spend considerable/quality time with the child, then what would be the problem? The child knows who it's parents are, it loves them, and those few hours apart don't serve as a problem. If anything it teaches the child to socialise and interact with people other than its parents, and it gives it a wider world view and teaches it respect of other adults. Why would it be deteremental to a child?
Also - just because it's been annoying me, lol - I have to ask you. . . you keep saying men and women are different. I get that, biologically and psychologically we are, and children can relate differently to each parent depending on gender/age etc. When it comes to
parenting though what do you think the difference should be (or is) between the father and the mother? And if there is a difference - aside from cultural and sociological expectations - why
should there be a difference?
I would also ask where is your evidence it's
better to have a two-person family. I could give anecdotal evidence why single-parent families or same-sex parents can be better in the long-run for a child, but I would like to see objective/scientific evidence that different-sexed two-parent families are better, if that is what the claim is.