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12-19-2010, 11:46 PM

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Originally Posted by MissMisa View Post
If I had a kid now, it'd be way easier. I could drop out of University, get my own free house, live on benefits. Sure, living in a crappy council house on a chav estate for the next few years ain't my idea of fun, but it'd be a walk in the park compared to what I'm doing now.

University and working and everything that comes with it is harder than if I just had a kid. Why do you think girls my age have kids all the time? Why do you think England has the highest teenage pregnancy rate in Europe? It's because people are lazy and they can't be arsed, and pregnancy IS the easy way out in an England that has very little in the way of employment prospects.
I don't think that childrearing is easier, but is perceived as easier. I'm not saying that you personally percieve it as easier, but the people you mentioned. . . If you look at those people who drop out of school or college because they think children are 'easy' - (God, there were so many from my old school!) - they are often horrible mothers or father, and go on to teach their children the same thing, that 'it's easier to have kids', which just creates a cycle.

Sorry, I'm not actually disagreeing with you as such, just the wording, lol. I think the problem is people think kids are an easy option, that being a stay-at-home mom/dad is a soft option, but having worked/been around kids I can honestly say it's not! I am extremely glad that I'm still in university and soon will have a career, because children are much harder to look after full-time than it is to study/work, and I know I'm far from being ready for that. I think people are naive for assuming stay-at-home parents are taking an easy option, and that time with children would soon change the mentality (again, not directly to you, just directed at the mentality of some people in general).
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