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Originally Posted by RobinMask
Err, I'm sure John can reply too, but as it was actually my quote I'll throw in a reply myself. . .
I understand that a parent can be desperate. There will probably be one or two parents who see it as their only option, who think that they have no other choice, but personally - even in that case - I still think it's neglect, abandonment and selfish (except in exceptional cases such as post-natal depression). A woman has dozens of contraceptive options avaliable to her, she has emergency contraception avaliable to her, there is also abortion (to those who believe in it), and adoption (to those that don't), and above all that there is the courage to turn to people for help and say 'I can't deal with this, please help me'. If - for whatever reason - a woman somehow ends up with a baby, despite all of that, and can't cope. . . there is still no excuse for abandonning it in such a manner.
One can give the child for adoption, or personally hand it to an authority figure, merely dropping it into a hatch and walking away shows indifference and disinterest. It's no different to me dropping off old clothes at a second-hand store and never giving it a second-thought. That child will never have the option of knowing where it came from, who its parents were, what it may have inheritted biologically, or why it was given away. If a mother can do that to a child, without even making sure that it's safe and taken care of, then personally I think it's dispicable.
Likewise the system doesn't account for the mothers who are sick or depressed and will then never be able to find that child again or get it back, or at least not without one hell of a fight. If that baby was put into adoption or foster care, then the sick mother - when well again - could get her child back and raise it, with little regrets. If it's annonymously 'dropped' then that poor woman will never have that chance.
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Interesting last comment ROBINpp forgive me if I got the wrong ID. I am hopeless at separating QUOTES. Need some help with that really
Well actually many women stil ldo lose their child when they are sick or on drugs or social services believe their child or children will be at risk. It Happens here A LOT.
The family courts are usually held in secret. so many parents are on drugs these days-- so if there is a risk that they will never get off drugs-- or recover often a child who is temporarily fostered-- will eventually be taken for adoption. The risk factor being taken into account. some social workers remove a child immediately the mother has given birth-- Here in this country this happens.
I think when there is real genuine fear that a child will be abused when returned to its parent-- then the decision is made in the family courts.
too often fostered children Are returned to their Home but are abused when they are there.