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Originally Posted by RealJames
This merits clarification, and a proper rebuttal ^^b
First of all, you're right, being with someone who is making an effort to not cheat sucks either way.
Secondly, your desire for a partner who is unphased by his or her sexual attraction to others because you're so awesome is perfectly right, and so unrealistic.
The most attractive thing about a new woman (or man) is in fact that she is new, at first with my girlfriend there was no issue.
What husband in the world doesn't check out and dream about younger girls? none, you're in a dreamland or believing the lies if you think otherwise...
If being a womanizer means I can appreciate the beauty and intelligence of women without thinking any less of them than I do myself, then so be it. I don't think less of a woman who is interested in many men because they all have different unique qualities that she enjoys.
The problem starts when enjoying them leads to multiple sexual relationships, then it's not so much a womanizer as a promiscuous man-whore, which is what I'm wanting to avoid.
Every long-term relationship in the world lacks the thrill and heartthrob of a new relationship, and it's okay to miss that.
I don't hide any of this from my gf, she knows and understands, it's not like I love her any less. She's understanding, and feels the same way towards men, but we both know that what we have is better than the thrill of a fling.
anyways, throw in the problem of having women who I consider out of my league making themselves available to me, and it makes it more irritating
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Hahah sucks to be ya
I agree with all that and I know it's kinda hard to stick with the one you've got and not feel tempted by other members of the opposite sex. Been there myself. However, the fact that it happens to everyone doesn't make it right. I believe in the kind of love that makes you not want to be with anyone else cause you believe no one out there can possibly be a better catch. If you're not sure about wanting to be with someone then geez!, break it off, be single for a while, realize what you want and if you feel the need to get back to that one person you left then go back and see if you can work things out and get back together. But wishing you were single so that you could stand a chance with other people? wrong wrong worng.
(ps. know what? I am the same as you, so it's okay if you choose not to take my advice on this LOL)