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Originally Posted by dogsbody70
"That being said, are those 8+ hours a day spent at daycare during a child's formative years best left in the hands of strangers, or the parent? What is the child missing by not being with the parent? What is the parent missing by not being with the child?
A generation ago parents knew their child's first words. Is that still true now?"
above quote from MM."
speaking for myself MM yes-- what do either of them miss?
I was fortunate enough to be there for both of mine when they were tiny and until school. they changed so much after entering school. I felt that I no longer knew them or had the same influence over them.
Socialising is GOOD other wise a child can grow up with inhibitions and not really able to mix well with others.
I just personally feel that I wanted to bring MY or OUR children up in the best way that I could--- I did not want others having too much influence on them.
after all I had them because I wanted them very much. Ours went to a part time play group when they were 2 and a half.
I am biased because of my own childhood being in environments where there was no real control -- just nurseries, Homes or foster care and those in charge could do what they wished with me with nobody to answer to.
I do not think children need to be smothered either. that is wrong.
When young babies go to some places how does a parent really know how that child is treated when they are not there.
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Yes, I agree with this. Since when has raising your own child been defined as "smothering"? This worries me.
I have nothing against people and couples that put their work and social lives as a priority. I just have an issue when they decide to be parents, but those priorities don't change. When you decide to become a parent, being a parent MUST be the priority.
If you job is more important than your child, then don't have children.
If your child is more important than your job, then quit your job.