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I said it was equal to - equally beneficially, equally ideal. [/quote]

Here is what you said:

Originally Posted by MissMisa

Love is a different thing~

I don't get why you insist on saying you have to have one or the other. This is 2011, you can have both with no detriment to the child whatsoever. It's not even an ideal in my view, if the child is happy then I don't see the problem.

If you are revising that statement, then I think we are making progress. I read this as saying it is not an ideal to have a child being raised by his parents. Am I misreading it?

Originally Posted by MissMisa

Are you of the opinion there can only be one 'best' solution to everything? Because I'm not.

By saying something is "the best" means there is no equal.

I think, for the most part it is the "best" to have a child raised by fit parents. I am surprised at what a negative reaction that brings out in some people.

Originally Posted by MissMisa

My conclusion is this - the best situation for a child is one where the parents love the child, care about the child, do what they think is best for the child, and cares about the happiness of the child - and the child is happy, well developed, and growing in a happy home. Whether the parents work or not is utterly irrelevent to me. If this can be achieved from a parent staying at home, or parents working, then this is the ideal that can be achieved in different ways.

For the most part, I agree with what you are saying, however I think the time factor is a great influence on the child. You don't.

Originally Posted by MissMisa

The ideal is NOT mum stays at home, dad goes to work, or any other situation. The ideal is that the child is happy and developing well.

We agree with the ends, if not the means.
For you, this is a problem. For me, it's not. This is where we disagree.



A child needs to interact with other children - so not just daycare, but things like daycare, nursery, playschool - somewhere safe to interact with other children. Not taking a children to things like this IS an actual detriment to the child. A responsible parent will take their child here so they can develop properly, whether they are staying at home or not.

A parent also needs a break from a child. You are a better parent if you have time to yourself, to relax and to destress, or to do things that make you happy. If you are unhappy yourself, it has been studied many many times and concluded that your emotional status reflects on your child.[/quote]