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Originally Posted by princessmarisa
Today I learnt that I am a monster because I think it is more loving to work all the hours you can to pay for your child to have the best possible healthcare, best pre-school teachers and most fun nursery times. Instead of making do on less money and thinking that hugs and kisses can make up for cheaper food, less educational toys and the chance for my child to interact with others their own age all day without smothering them.
Sentimental bullshit is what causes bad parents, people who have children so that they themselves can feel loved and pretend all the staying at home and caring is for the Child's benefit instead of their own desire to feel needed and somehow superior.
Affection is needed, and as missmisa said can be given when the parents or carers get home from work.
Constant affection is no replacement for child raising skills, so yes you can compare it to a career and if more people did, perhaps they would research it and take it more seriously than thinking all it takes is "love" |
Again, please cut the drama. No one called anyone a "monster".
YOU may think working long hours is showing love to your baby, but does your baby think so? It's about his happiness, right?
It's funny that you would come to the conclusion that a parent that puts her career on hold to raise her baby is being selfish. It's amazing how far feminism has taken us.
A baby doesn't need affection, love and connection with the parent for the couple hours a parent has after work. The baby needs it all day.
When did anyone say constant affection REPLACES child raising skills. BOTH are needed.
If you see parenting as just another job, and not as the life change and life choice than it is, then it's a real sad statement for the youth of the world. I hope yours is a minority opinion. I wonder why people cry with tears of joy when their first baby is born. It's just like starting a new job, right? No biggee.
