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Originally Posted by dogsbody70

I did not feel capable of having a chiild and caring for it when I was your age Misa. I would have been a bad parent I know.

But that's not the case for everyone. I'm sure I could've been a good parent when I was younger, I just couldn't afford it, lacked financial stability, and lacked everything needed to raise one so that he/she could grow up healthy. Emotionally, I would've been fine. I couldn't adopt either, something else I'd wanted to do for years.

I did not have a clue. I am glad for you that you had such a great childhood-- we are not saying mothers shouldn't work at all. Most would have to-- to survive.

Okay, I described my experience too. I grew up in a two-parent home where both parents worked. I had a very good childhood. My parents loved me, they took care of me, they were there for me emotionally, and physically (meaning, it wasn't like I never saw them). You can find a balance if you want to, if in that situation.

The only time where I didn't see my parents as much, was when my mother got a second job, since she needed the extra money, but by that time, I was about 16 years old or so, so it was no big deal. I also still had my grandmother (I always grew up living with my parents and my grandmother).

GoNative has described an excellent place for his child-- and thats great.

The way he described his life, sounded a lot like mine growing up.

You are entitled to your views but I hate the attitude that a child is just THE KID as though it is of no importance whatsoever.

I don't see anything wrong with saying "kid" either, unless you're using it in a disdainful way. I use it all the time. For instance, I was talking about the elementary school children a couple of weeks ago. I was telling my family, "I had to go to the elementary school. The first-grade kids were just so adorable!!!" I said all of that ecstatically. I didn't say it to be mean or anything. It's not what you say, it's how you say it.