[MMM]

Originally Posted by princessmarisa

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Do you have any opinions you didn't pull out of the Daily Mail newspaper or whatever the equivalent is wherever you reside?
So sick of this think what it is fashionable to think crap the world seems infected with.

Princess Marisa, this is getting a little too emotionally charged and personal for my comfort anymore. There is nothing more that I can say to you that I haven't already said.

Originally Posted by GoNative

MMM you have an attitude that it is best for a child to have a parent at home. You also seem to believe that anyone that doesn't do this is being selfish and creating an environment detrimental to their children. That's fine. When you have a child then go ahead and raise him/her as you see fit.

The first sentence is correct. I never called anyone selfish or said by not having a parent at home it is detrimental to their children. I just said what I thought was ideal. I know every family has their own situation, and sometimes things have to be done the way they have to be done.

Originally Posted by GoNative

Just accept that we don't all agree with you. I certainly don't agree with the premise that it is best for a child to be at home with a stay at home parent prior to them going to school.

"Stay-at-home parent" is the term, but it doesn't mean the parent and child have to stay at home all day. There are play groups, the zoo, museums, parks, playgrounds, etc.

Originally Posted by GoNative

I fail to see how this is a much better environment for the childs growth. It's one option and certainly not a bad one but there are other options and I don't see them being detrimental for the child in anyway whatsoever. In fact I believe the current situation for my child is very beneficial and positive for her.

Again, please don't misquote me. I didn't say "much better," I just said I thought it was ideal. From what I see, for many people having the mom put her career on hold so she can raise her child seems to be the ultimate goal. I am surprised to hear that goal would be the opposite. Like I asked before, if you have the means and could work it out, wouldn't you want to be there to raise your child? (

When we drop off our daughter at day care there's often a couple of her friends waiting for her and calling out her name in greeting when she arrives. She normally can't wait to get her shoes off and run in and start playing with them. I know the women who runs the centre has a day full of activities organised that will keep my little girl active, stimulated and learning. Probably much better structured that what we could offer her around the home. (And I am not speaking YOU, GoNative, but the generic "you".) If you had the means but chose not to, then why have children at all? Isn't the fun being there to see those special moments and helping your child discover the world around him?

Originally Posted by GoNative

There are many reasons why both parents may choose to get back to work as soon as possible. Not all of them are just purely selfish at the cost of the child. As I said earlier you appear to come from a community and way of thinking that is very, very different to most of my peers and friends. We just don't hink like you do. You appear to believe that your view is the only right view but just accept it's only your opinion and not an absolute fact.

Again, I never called anyone selfish, I am just trying to understand the thinking, as it is very different from what I see around me. Even the women I know that have small children and work wish they didn't have to, and wish they could be with their kids all day until they start school.

I do not think my view is the only view, and I am very aware that it is my opinion, and my opinion only. Again, I am just trying to understand another perspective.