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Originally Posted by MMM
If you had the means but chose not to, then why have children at all? Isn't the fun being there to see those special moments and helping your child discover the world around him?.
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Because there are special moments regardless of how much time you get to spend with your child. So you may not be there for the very first steps they ever take but there will still be the very first time you see them take steps. It's just a s special as far as I'm concerned. And you can still play a major role in helping your child discover the world around them. That they also have other experiences without you I believe is only a good thing. I'm assuming in most of your experience one of the parents do go to work? Do they not miss out on all the things you believe are so important? Why did they become a parent if they didn't give up working and stay at home as well?
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Originally Posted by MMM
Again, I never called anyone selfish, I am just trying to understand the thinking, as it is very different from what I see around me. Even the women I know that have small children and work wish they didn't have to, and wish they could be with their kids all day until they start school.
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Well you do live in a very different community to the one I am familiar with. All of my good friends from Australia (male or female) are tertiary educated, many with PHD's. Most haven't started families until their late 20's to mid 30's and most have successful careers beforehand. Most of the mothers have managed to get 1-2 years maternity leave after having a child and all have returned to work after this time. This really is pretty much normal in Australia and not considered unusual in anyway like it appears to be where you are from. I know one thing for sure in Australia there is no stigma attached to women who don't stay at home. In fact there's almost more of a negative stigma attached to women who do just choose to be housewives.