[Ryzorian]

A child is a gift, why look at it as "OMG you ruined my life?" This isn't about university or even what color car you like, or even your parents. The choices you make here on out will reflect on this person's life for the next potential 80 years. Your a father now, don't let this child's memories of you be poor ones, or the person who says "OMG you ruined my life" may be your child.

These are rather harsh words I know, but better to hear harshness from strangers than harsheness from your child. Mine you can forget as some bloke from wherever, those from your child will remain with you for ever.