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Originally Posted by NanteNa
Have you looked at photos and tapes of kids from broken homes? Kids who may have suffered many kinds of abuse and psychological neglect because their mother was 'forced' to have them because a baby is not just "some damned unwanted piece of meat to be discarded so easily."?
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While I don`t want to get involved in any debate about abortion itself... I think there are some flaws in the arguments you present.
There are just as many children who were "wanted" that end up abused as those who weren`t wanted. A person who makes a selfish decision to have a baby because they want a cute little pet person is a lot more likely to end up neglecting or abusing the child once they realize that it`s not just an accessory.
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Have you read about what birth depression causes mothers to do to their children?
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This is a very bad example. Postpartum depression is said to be far more common in mothers who DO want their children. When a baby is wanted and there is a lot of looking forward to it`s arrival... Only to have it not be the level of joy that was expected, and then feelings of something being wrong because the joy isn`t being felt... and then the spiral of hormonal changes and the stress of not feeling what everyone tells you should be felt.
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Some of these mothers probably wanted the children at some point.. but if you feel mentally unable to provide what a newborn child needs, then there's no need to bring something to the world that'll only live in misery, feeling unwanted, abandoned and out of place.
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The problem is that if the mothers feel they wanted the child... It isn`t as if you can "abort" the baby once it`s born. The mothers who feel they want the baby and then are unable to care for it don`t realize this until a baby is THERE.
Personally, when there is no doubt that the baby could not be cared for and no doubt that the baby is unwanted at this time, I see no problems with having an early abortion. Obviously it`s best to not get pregnant to begin with, but the world is not a perfect place.
I do have an issue with "selfish" abortions - the kind where the mother didn`t really bother with birth control because she can always get an abortion.
If you don`t want / cannot care for a baby, do your very best not to get pregnant... And if you do, abortion should be the last resort and should be done ASAP. I think that in most cases, this is the way it is. Frivolous abortions are not very common.
I just kind of wish there was some way to punish the type who doesn`t really bother with birth control, thinking it will never happen to them, without causing an unwanted child to be brought into the world.