[evanny]

well. if a kid is autistic (later stages) then it is like you said. he can live a happy life. but - the life of his parents won't be. i've seen these people - so miserable because of their child - they do everything to make him happy and yes - the kid is happy, but parents aren't (not all cases but still plenty). it is always harder for those around than than the person with defects.
lets say you are a successful working woman with dreams of a great life. your child comes along and now your whole life is bind to taking care of him - in some cases for rest of the child's life without realizing any of your hopes.
this could have been the way it went for my family because of my leg problems when i was born, but in the end everything was better than ok. still - it was a small chance and i would hate myself for robbing my parents of their lives if it didn't work out.