[PoissonApple]

Point a:
You know it will always be the same. 'Cause even if people say the important thing is the character they will look on your appearance! And it neither bad nor good. You have to see it this way. When you see a person you want speak to this person because this person have a really nice character or awesome values, you will speak to this person because of her or his appearance! Because this person look good. In the first way you can't see a persons character, values and standards! After you talked to a person you think, this person look good, you can decide if this persons character suits you or not.
I am sure you also chat o talk to women, who you think they look good! Am I right? I can't imagine you would chat with a woman who doesn't look good in your eyes! Appearance is everything.
That's why I think you should upload a picture on your site, never mind you look good or not. Beauty is a matter of opinion. I'm sure there will be anytime a person who will like you as you are!
Point b:
You should give a fuck, what other people think and say about you even if it is bad! If you care you will always be vulnerable. This doesn't mean you should be apathetic now, but you really shouldn't care what other people tell about you.
You know people who talk about other people bad have no own life. They're just bored, because they're own life have nothing to offer and that's why they chatter about other peoples life, actions, appearance and so on.
The most of them are loser! So, don't care about people who don't like you. Only care about people who love you as the person you are. Care about your real friends even if it might be hard for you. If you try, it might be anytime easy for you!
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