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Originally Posted by Demitrichan
A lot of adults forget what its like to be a teen
A lot of people don't remember how much they craved freedom
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I don't think adults forget what it's like at all but part of being an adult and a parent is being responsible for your child. As your child grows and experiments with independence then this will nearly always create some issues. It's never been any different.
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Originally Posted by Demitrichan
To me it sounds like OP, just needs to get out.
I think every kid at some point has a think they do as a form of rebellion.
As for this one person they rely on. Some people aren't as strong as others
and for all we know this one person could be the one thing they have to take the
Pressure from life away. People depend on each other its human nature
We are social creature. I've seen people be alone and rely on themselves for to long
and the only thing it serves to do is make them cynical.
I would ask everyone that posts in this thread to look at both side of the story.
In all honesty this sounds like a classic case of a parent scared to make mistakes so they don't trust their kid. And the kid doesn't know what to do and feels trapped. Adults aren't always right an neither are kids.
Instead of telling OP they are wrong. How about making unbias suggestions.
Also don't assume that hust because someone is young they know nothing of the world.
Its insulting to any young person teen or not.
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Couldn't agree more with you that part of growing up is becoming independent and rebelling against the authority of your parents. How much angst and problems this causes will depend on how reasonable both the parents and child are. Personally I went to boarding school for a year at the age of 14. In that year I became incredibly independent and self sufficient. When I returned home I had huge iussues integrating back into the family environment and accepting their authority over me. Had a few very turbulent years until I left home at 18 I can tell you. It wasn't that my parents had forgotten what it was like to be young, in fact they were incredibly lenient and open minded, it was that I had stopped being a child in that year away from home (well at least I felt that way).
My advice to the OP is try not to be too selfish and self absorbed. The world is not just about your needs and wants. Part of growing up is realising that we don't just get what we want in this life, it is almost always about compromise and if we have dreams of something different then to reach them takes effort and time. Try to consider and see things from your parents point of view. They love and want to help you grow but also want to protect you. If you find the protection is stifling then talk with them about it. Do this when everybody is calm and happy, not in the middle of a fight over something. Your relationship with your parents is like any other relationship it will work better if you communicate.
When I was a teenager I must admit that I didn't exactly follow my advice above but why not learn from the mistakes us older buggers have made?
