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Originally Posted by TrainOfThought
Now, I don't want to be all negative and stuff, but I think it's very rare for young couples to make it in a long distance relationship where you don't get to meet a lot.
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Track records of long distance relationship are generally bad, regardless of the age, mileage or cause for the separation. A few people can manage them, and the ones I have known usually had problems without the distance separating them fairly often. It seems to be an either/or situation. The relationships are stable in either closeness or distance, but don't seem to hold up when that factor changes significantly.
My parents were one of those that worked beautifully as long as Dad had flights taking him away for at least a week out of every month. And any older couple will tell you that when their partner retired and was home all the time, they drove each other crazy.
But the problem with separation before a relationship is solid on a face-to-face basis, is that there are not enough anchors in the day-to-day reality of the other person's life. You begin to operate on ideas and feelings that often proove unrealistic once you are together; not to mention the temptations of the here and now that regulary interfere.