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Originally Posted by Columbine
Say whuuut? Calling a man to change a ~LIGHT BULB~ to make him feel wanted? Are you serious? The only circumstance that would lead me to call a man for such a little task would be if I'd broken both my legs. For me that would be condescending to my boy and demeaning to myself.
"Hey boyfriend, to placate your fragile male ego (because clearly any other demonstration of love for you is not enough) I'm going to pretend to be someone I'm not, and feign a truly pathetic level of incompetence so you can come dashing to my petty time-wasting demands like my shining knight of menial chores."
Can't you just ~tell~ the poor sucker you like having him around? You know, if that whole 'dating' thing isn't getting the hint across?
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I find it a bit off that you'd take an entire post about a man's desire to feel needed in a relationship and focus on a light bulb example to undermine the main point. But, I'll bite. Yes, even if it is a light bulb, it will help get the message across. Every little bit counts as long as you take the time to make the man feel needed.
And, for the final part of your post, the answer is "no." No, it is not enough to just ~tell~ the poor sucker you like having him around. Some people like to know “why” they are around and that they’re around for a purpose… not just that they are around. Would a woman not enjoy being told why a man finds her attractive/cute/stunning/amazing/ that he wants to be with her….you know, if that whole ‘dating’ thing isn’t getting the hint across? :P
If you make a man feel useless/unneeded it will be rough sailing for that relationship.
Anyways, a question was asked and I gave an honest answer. Whether you like it or not, choose to follow it or not, find it insulting/agreeable or not, it's entirely up to you. No one will fault you for it.