Perhaps realizing that Japan isn't any more or less awesome than any other country, might help.
You can evenly obsess about anyone that likes any country and become a global tourism travel expert lol.
I avoid English speaking friends here as I'm learning the language, I don't feel it's all that bad, I don't go very far out of my way but it's also part of wanting to experience this culture, not just a dislocated version of my own.
Oh and I'm way better than you when it comes to Japan. For sure. Does that irritate you?
I mean I'm still here, doing all the things you wish you could be doing, and doing them better than you can imagine. Does that also bother you?
v=^-^=b