Apologies for sounding like a snob, but I seriously need your help.
We dearly love a particular cozy bar in our small town. Excellent jazz, even better owner/bartender, and not like anything else in our area. We are selective as to who we'll even tell this place about, because noisy and rude Americans will just wreck this place (and there are many Americans here). Well, my DH invited a friend there the other night who is reasonably well-mannered, but this friend invited another person who is N-O-T
!!! I couldn't believe he was there in the first place (my boss' husband, on top of everything else), but as the night progressed...well, I won't get into even more details, but he was rude, said inappropriate things loudly, and even BLEW HIS NOSE into his cloth napkin
. DH was horrified, as am I. This is our favorite place in town. Yes, the owner made a ton of money that night, but now I'm embarrassed to go back there and feel badly that he was subjected to that. The guy didn't say anything rude to the owner, just was one of those noisy jerks you see around.
The owner doesn't really speak English and I don't speak Japanese well at all, so I have no idea how to apologize. He definitely recognizes us as he even knows what we like to drink.
Please tell me how we can apologize for having brought that guy in there, or if at this point we even can. I don't even know if an apology would be appropriate. I know it sounds over the top, but this place is like a sanctuary in this town for us. A friend who speaks Japanese told us what DH could have said that night with the guy standing there (that 'guest' wouldn't have known the difference anyway), but after the fact I have no idea what to say. It's not like we can drag his ass back in there and say "sorry we brought this rube in here; we don't agree with one jackass comment he made and will never subject you to anyone like him again." No worries: this guy will never show up there on his own because there was no Toby Keith playing, but I still want to apologize.
Sorry so long. Please do advise.
G