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Originally Posted by BobbyCooper
DUDE..  I've shared the most private situations you couldn't even imagine and even my bed with Asians from Korea, Japan, China and Thailand. I've spend 24 hours a day with these lovely poeple and this for a period of 6 long months. I've shared everything in that time, even my most secret affairs and you smart-atleck come in here and want to tell me I would know nothing about Asians? Yeah take a guess..
How about you learn how to read first? Where did I say I would knew how life is like in Japan or any other Asian country? I do know how life is in South-East-Asia, however I do not pretend to know these countrys either. I said, that I know Asians nothing else! So please Don't try to mock poeple on this board.
When I visit this place here, I do not want to get into heated debates.. my life is way too short for this kind of rubbish on the Internet. I want to educate myself about the most interesting Asian country, which just happen to me Japan for me.. thats all. And I find it facinating to read from people who actually made the move and live a happy life over there these days like RealJames for example. |
It is very confusing whether or not you are talking about society or your individual friends. The two are very different, and that is what I think you don't seem to get. Also, Japanese society, and life in Japan are pretty much overlapping concepts. Ok some examples of why I do not need to learn to read.
Example 1: you said
"you guys are the reason why I hate the western society" ok so you are talking about society now and how you hate it.
Example 2: You then said
]"I couldn't care less if people will always call me a foreigner or something else..gaijin and so on.. who cares?" So "people" here meaning society.. and then you go on to say..
"As long as I can be with the people I love the most I will be happy" Unless you are talking about your specific friends you met then this sentence is very contradictory and confusing. What it looks like it means to me is that you will always like Japanese society no matter how you are treated, and yet you seem to have big problems with how you are treated in Western society. Is that really going to work out well for you?
So you are equating your experience with a few people to be representative of society and how life will be in Japan (at least this is what it sounds like to me) Take example 3: You said
"I know that people are different in a different world, which is Asia James." Now clearly talking about people in society.. and then you said
"I didn't just come up with all this by my own.. I experienced it every day when I went to Asutralia and New Zealand" Clearly equating your experience with individuals to show how your life will be in Japan. Oh and just a little warning.. how Japanese act and treat you outside of their country, and in their country, around their old friends and family etc.. might be surprisingly different. Just a fair little warning..
You cannot equate individuals with society, how your friends treat you and how the public treats you will be different. I hope you realize this, because it seems this is something you do not understand and you are just setting yourself up for disappointment.
So anyhow you now admit that do not know about life in Japan.. which overlaps significantly with Japanese society, and say that you just want to be with your friends, can you really tell me that even IF you can accomplish a great private life that your public life, how you are treated, and how you will NEVER fit into society, will not affect how you feel, even though it does in affect how you feel in Western society? If so, then go for it. I have been here 7 years and its been great.. but the way you and I think about Japan is like night and day.. so I cannot be so sure that even if you are a little more realistic than you present yourself, that you will be happy. It just seems there is a lot you are assuming based on your limited experiences (and I know you think you have a great knowledge based on your time with your friends, but your friends are individuals, they are not society, and they may not even be typical for all you know), and you are going to be in for many unpleasant surprises by setting your expectations for your "life with the asians" so high.
Oh and a little side note stop throwing "Asians" into one MASSIVE group of people.. many many different countries and cultures, and I don't think they like being thought of as all the same.
(I had a much better explained response than this post, but the website took a dump on me.. so sorry it is not as articulate as i would have liked it).