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05-20-2011, 10:01 AM

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Originally Posted by Nyororin View Post
It is a private subject, and not one women tend to discuss with random men. I kind of doubted it would come up unless you were close to them - ie. in a relationship. I wasn`t assuming that you were sleeping around with countless women, but rather that you`d talked about the subject with the women you`d been in relationships with.



The thing is, my friends weren`t all just from my school. I found it pretty much the same all over. The girls at coed schools were sleeping with other students - the all-girls school girls were more likely to have college boyfriends. But none of them were sleeping with much older guys.

Maybe it`s your area? There may be a more lax feeling toward relationships with older men. I know in some areas it is something that even parents approve of - if she is going to be sleeping with someone, better the girl to have a relationship with an older more responsible man who could take care of her than with a young guy who couldn`t. (Of course, I have yet to see a parent who wants their daughter to sleep with anyone, regardless of age.)

A phenomenon I noticed with all girls schools is that there are a lot of teacher-marries-student cases. In the time I was there, two newish teachers (first few years out of university) married students just after graduation. Most of the male teachers were married to former students who`d they`d met when they first started teaching and married after graduation.
It was definitely a positive thing, and parents were thrilled.
I wonder how many of those relationships started while before graduation.

Thanks for not assuming I'm such a slut I am a little bit of one but not that much haha

I think you might be onto something with the location. It's been my experience that the people in the Kansai area, especially in Osaka city, are a lot more lax when it comes to lifestyle and also talking about themselves.

I also wonder how much it could have been happening around you without knowing about it, as I'd mentioned some of these women didn't even tell their closest friends at the time it was happening.
I also agree it's a very personal thing that most people would never divulge about themselves, perhaps as I'm see to be an outsider and don't frequent their other circles I'm a safe outlet and the "well... why not?" mentality comes up often.

Who knows really
Maybe I really did somehow manage to end up being friendly with the minority


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