Thanks Nyororin! I have often had trouble communicating with Obaasan, and even when I can communicate, I have a lot of trouble with empathy. You did a great job showing me her side of the story!
I can see how expecting her to sit around and be waited on is like robbing her of her role in the household. She has made several comments saying she feels like she is freeloading.
I'll tell Mom what I found out. She is frequently as clueless as I am when it comes to this, so she'll be happy to find out what I've learned.
You seem to be pretty knowledgable about this. Could I pm you if I have another question?