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Originally Posted by Nyororin
I definitely wouldn`t encourage anyone to get married so young, but don`t think that anyone having an interest in commitment at 18 is "in serious need of mental help". That is the bit I took issue with. Wanting to get married, even when you`re young, isn`t quite a sign of mental illness.
I can`t say that I am a fan of the common thinking that commitment = something horrible.
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My Disclaimer; I was engaged at 19, married at 20, and divorced at 24 lol
I feel that you were lucky Nyororin, and clearly I wasn't.
I feel that the reasons mine didn't work would be virtually non-existent were I to get married again now at a later age.
I feel that what you did was taking a risk.
Taking a risk isn't bad, but taking a risk with something so serious, is what I was referring to as being in need of medical help.
I'm glad your marriage is happy and perhaps it's easy for you to say it was worth it to take the risk seeing how it worked out.
I'm really happy that there were no children in my marriage when things went south.
I may be jaded by my experience, and you may be seeing it from a nicer perspective, I'm not sure where the truth lies. I've been trying to use "I feel" a lot since I have no clue lol.
In my opinion, people change a lot before the age of 30, and even more before 25 and infinitely more before 20, and are entirely different humans before 16.
Promising to stay with another person who's changing just as much as you are is like buying a house without looking at it or choosing your career by drawing cards out of a hat, in my opinion.
I really do feel you got lucky.