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Originally Posted by RealJames
My Disclaimer; I was engaged at 19, married at 20, and divorced at 24 lol
I feel that you were lucky Nyororin, and clearly I wasn't.
I feel that the reasons mine didn't work would be virtually non-existent were I to get married again now at a later age.
I feel that what you did was taking a risk.
Taking a risk isn't bad, but taking a risk with something so serious, is what I was referring to as being in need of medical help.
I'm glad your marriage is happy and perhaps it's easy for you to say it was worth it to take the risk seeing how it worked out.
I'm really happy that there were no children in my marriage when things went south.
I may be jaded by my experience, and you may be seeing it from a nicer perspective, I'm not sure where the truth lies. I've been trying to use "I feel" a lot since I have no clue lol.
In my opinion, people change a lot before the age of 30, and even more before 25 and infinitely more before 20, and are entirely different humans before 16.
Promising to stay with another person who's changing just as much as you are is like buying a house without looking at it or choosing your career by drawing cards out of a hat, in my opinion.
I really do feel you got lucky.
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Totally agree with this!
I also believe that you cannot be in Love with only one person for your entire life. Love weakens up after time and everthing becomes boring and normal.. this time frame depends on every relationship.
The best examples to this rule, are the celebritys from today. People who can choose who they want to date and spend their life with.
Everyone of them gets divorced at one point.. which shows you, that Love isn't forever.
Now you have several options to live with that.. one would be to have an open realtionship for example.
But I do believe that there is one exception out there, which would be to marry a true Asian girl or boy. Then it would depend on you and on you only if you can Love him/her forever.. or if you are the reason for the break up, cause she will not be.