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Originally Posted by MMM
Well put, so let's have this part of the bickering end here. I am seeing too many threads reduced to senseless and off topics back-and-forths, and I am seeing the same names come up again and again. I would rather temp-ban obnoxious posters than close otherwise interesting threads, and I will if these interactions keep up.
This is pretty normal. A home is not a social gathering place in Japan for adults for the most part. If you want to meet a friend you schedule a time and a place (usually outside at a cafe or restaurant or wherever) and that's where you socialize.
Just as you wouldn't want someone to enter your home without knocking, a Japanese person would not want you visiting her home without invitation.
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the point is that usually we were always in touch-- she was not at school and I was extremely worried about her-- thought she must be ill.
We have done a great deal for her and friends surely should be welcome at any time. This lady always kept her phone switched off so that nobody could ever contact her. she likes to control US but not keen when its the other way round. The lady she lodges with is a Philipino and asked us in -- almost insisted when I asked after my friend. My friend did not inform her own family when she broke her arm. We helped her out a great deal during that time- she practically was here every day. We have helped her when she has worried about her Visa etc. If one can't contact someone by phone and is very worried is it so wrong to go and find out?
We have always had an open door for her at any time.