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Originally Posted by BobbyCooper
You gotta need to step out of your little dream world and see the facts for ones.
But this is exactly why the Western society sucks.. because of people like you.
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I so need to stop myself from replying, but...
I have been in Japan for a very long time. My entire adult life has been spent in the country. I speak Japanese fluently. I went to school in Japan (high school and university). My husband is Japanese.
If there is someone here living in a dream world, I do not think it is me. But hey, what do I know about Japan, eh?
Anyway though - this is the LAST I want to hear from you, Bobby. Insulting a mod directly is pushing it pretty hard.
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We had plenty of foreign friends who would just drop by if they were in the area and never had an issue with it. Neither of us are overly house proud. Even if having people over for a planned event we didn't ever worry about having the place spotless. If it was really dirty we'd just get a cleaner in as we both really hate housework.
We were well aware though of the issue Japanese people have with you just turning up and never really did it. We did have one family who we were very close to and we would occasionally if we were walking by their house (they lived close to us). They never appeared to have any problem with it but as I say we were really good friends.
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I think the important part is that they were foreign friends. There is an understanding that the house isn`t necessarily going to be spotless, and that you will understand if theirs isn`t.
As for getting a cleaner - well, you would still need a bit of warning to call one, I presume.
I think that the best comparison would be more like having a friend stop by suddenly out of the blue when you have just gotten over an illness and have left everything a total mess (not just cluttered, but dishes in the sink, etc) AND you`ve just gotten out of the bath and are walking around in your worst torn and stained pajamas... And them just kind of pushing their way in. (And their house is always spotless on top of that!)
With close friends, I don`t think it`s an issue. But it is one of the closest expressions of friendship - you just don`t let people in without planning it unless they are very close.