[RealJames]

you're worrying about small stuff man, you can get used to all that stuff you mentioned easily!

can you get used to having less friends?
spending less time with them?
taking much much longer to have a deep friendship and maybe even then not deep by your standards?

can you get used to tatemae?

can you get used to little to no small talk?

can you accept you'll always be an outsider?

these are the real questions you should be asking.