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Originally Posted by RealJames
it clearly crosses the line if someone says something along the lines of;
"I just like Japanese guys more, it's my personal preference, just because they're nicer..."
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Basically, this.
It`s fine to be more attracted to people of some certain background because there are traits you personally find attractive. Liking hair color, stature, etc, is one thing - but when "nationality" or "race" becomes the description is when there is something wrong.
When it comes to physical traits - I like dark haired men, who are the same height or a bit taller than me, who aren`t all that hairy. As far as physical features go, yes, the majority of Japanese guys would probably fit. But so would countless other guys the world over. That I ended up marrying a Japanese guy has a whole lot more to do with the simple fact that I was in Japan than any preference for race or nationality.
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People who want to only date Asians do not consider the culture barrier that may be there, or automatically think their culture will top their spouse/SO's culture. That...causes problems.
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Oooh! Another big one!
If you are ever involved in any foreigner-married-to-Japanese groups, you`ll see this in bright glowing vividness. The foreigner is always completely reasonable in wanting to move to / continue to live in their native country. They`re always reasonable for wanting to stay close to their family and friends... But the partner is completely unreasonable, selfish, and self-centered for even mentioning a desire to live in their native country or be close to THEIR family. You can almost bet money on which relationships are going to fail by looking at how the foreign side handles this - if they go on and on about how horrified they are that their partner would want to keep them away from their family / deny children a chance to know their grandparents / isolate the foreign husband/wife from friends / etc etc without ever giving any thought to the feelings on the Japanese side... That relationship is not going to survive in any happy state.