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Originally Posted by Brass
...as in I will probably need to put a lot more effort into this than just putting my profile on a website and hoping to meet friends.
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Hey Brass,
Great statement and no need to necessarily apologize but it's good you are heartfelt about this.
Friends ya say? Well, just be yourself you'll meet a lot of great friends/pen pals. Thought you wanted something more ... a pen pal with a little romance involved.
If you want something more (which you have stated) you're going to have to start out with this mindset from the get go. Remember that girls tend to compartmentalize guys once they meet them. If they meet you and think you're a nice person to chat with then you'll be that "nice person to chat with" guy while some other guy is in the "this is the guy I have sex with" category. Once you're in a category it's hard to just up and move to another. Obviously, you're not going to be in that 2nd category because of distance. [These are simplified/extreme categories for example but there are many more such as: "guy who buys me things" category which guys behave themselves into and then have the audacity to call a girl a "gold digger" when they applied for that job. If people buy ME things...i'm taking them too.]
Also, girls aren't very visual like us guys so finding a girl who is going to want video/pics/or the dreaded "cyber chat" with romantic / sexual contexts might be difficult too (especially if you don't plan on moving there/her here to marry.)
This whole situation (i.e.: romantic "friend" from a distance) is difficult.