Actually, asked him about it yesterday, and he said he doesn't mind where we live, minus those earlier problems (he wants to spend the majority of time in Japan).
He went to another school before...so I got the impression it was more of a trade school. It was kind of a language institute, where he learned Spanish. He wanted to expand his education he said. I think when he was in high school and middle school he didn't really get good grades.
Well, his English is FAR better than my Japanese. Although I wouldn't call him fluent, he's very close. He can understand everything in many comedians' comedy routines, but he doesn't know why people think they're funny sometimes ^_^
When it comes to living here, most of the things I don't like I can live with. However, I guess my concerns in general pertain to any kids we could potentially have in the future if we stayed together.
I really value my American way of thinking as an individual, which here, is not as valued. If my kids were to grow up, I would want them to value independence and individualism. These views have pros and cons like everything, but they are the views I was raised with, so therefore they hold great value to me, and I want to pass them onto my children. If I lived here, they would grow up differently, because the society around them would be different. They may also have a difficult time since they would be half children, and would therefore look different.
Thing is, my boyfriend doesn't like Japanese public schools much, and neither do I, but living in Japan would make it harder for our hypothetical kids to avoid the kind of things taught by Japanese schools that we don't like.
There are other aspects, but most of it is in relation to the fact that I'm not familiar with Japan yet.
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Originally Posted by kakurenbo
So you don't want to live in Japan forever and he doesn't want to live in the US forever and you say if you stay in this relationship you will have to live in Japan for 10 odd years. What is expected to happen after 10 years that you wont have to live in Japan anymore?
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He's trying to get a job at an international company of some sort. So he's been looking at companies who transfer people. I think he eventually wants to work for a large trading company or the Japanese government.
Nothing's really a guarantee right now.